Happiness . . . Peace of Mind . . . Joy . . . Connection

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If you need help during this time of isolation and trouble
I'm still accepting new clients

Services


PERSONAL

Work through the changes you want to make in your own life . . . Overcoming anxiety, managing your anger, getting on top of depression. Receive practical guidance from an expert. Discover answers for the questions that have plagued you. Finally find solutions for the things that have held you back for so long.

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COUPLES

Scientific studies over the last 2 or 3 decades have given us real facts about what makes relationships work. It isn't a matter of opinion or theory anymore. You can quickly learn tools and insights to make your relationship better. Choose from several ways to achieve these changes: You have the option of seeing me, or to work with my wife Susan, who is a Marriage and Family Therapist, or you can see us together. You can even do focused work over a long weekend in a Couples Breakthrough Intensive.

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COACHING

If you are doing OK with your life, but you're running into obstacles pursuing a practical goal, coaching may be your choice. We can schedule 15-60 minute touch-points on the phone to clarify steps to take towards your goal. It is crisp, focused, and action-oriented. Also, while in counseling to solve a problem, I can offer practical input between sessions to improve your progress more quickly.

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ASSESSMENT

Save time and money by taking scientifically proven tests that pinpoint exactly what's going on for you as a person, or as a couple. Like x-rays at the doctor, assessments provide an accurate, quick understanding of the hidden causes of the roadblocks that keep you from moving forward, and then pinpoints the direction needed for change.

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About


My Style

I have an engaging, relaxed style and sense of humor that allows people to have fun even while doing serious work in counseling. Being approachable and easy to talk to, informal and friendly, people tell me that they feel they can relax and be open with me. I also give you feedback, information, guidance, and answers to your questions. People find that refreshing, as they want to really know what they're dealing with and what to do about it. There is a vast spectrum of psychological technology and information available in this day and age that I want to pass on to you.

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Practical Approach

In contrast to many other therapists, I offer my clients practical guidance and answers to your questions. I have gained the experience to be able to quickly connect with you, understand what you're dealing with and point the direction for change. We will work together to see real changes in your life, results you can recognize.

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Integrative Therapy

Many people have questions that have a spiritual element, whether trying to understand your purpose in life, trying to get your mind around the suffering you've had to deal with, or the painful experiences you may have had with organized religion. You may want guidance from a spiritual perspective too, not just psychological. While I am most familiar with Christian tradition, you have the option of discussing your own spiritual experience and reflection.

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Professional Expertise

In practice for over 40 years, I bring skill and experience at the Master Therapist level. I was a professor for 10 years at a graduate program for Marriage and Family Therapy, and have also supervised over 25 Interns. With a team of other professionals, I established and led a multiple-office counseling network in the Bay Area, and have also presented numerous seminars, workshops, and retreats for a variety of organizations. I have obtained 18 hours per year of continuing education from experts in the field of psychology.

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Team


Susan Hudson Day, M.A.

Marriage Family Therapist

My wife and best friend, Susan also partners with me for intensive work with couples, whether doing co-therapy together, or as a tag-team to access both a male and female perspective.

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Matt McKeithan, M.A.

Psychology Intern

Newest member of our team, Matt has had significant experience working with teens and children, and is pursuing his doctoral degree in Psychology. Matt is working under my supervision.

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Justin Schrotenboer, Ph.D.

Psychology Intern

In practice for 4 years, Justin brings a wealth of experience in counseling from his previous work at the Masters level. Justin now works under my supervision seeking licensure as a Psychologist.

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What To Expect


First Session
The first appointment introduces me to your situation as I listen to your story and begin thinking about how to approach what you're working on. You are also getting a feel for me and if I'm the right therapist for you. . . It should "click" and should feel comfortable and natural. You or I may also decide to seek another therapist especially if your concerns would be better served by a specialist.

We usually have a plan we can begin working on by the end of the first session, and I may even suggest some homework to start trying. It will become more and more clear what is holding you back from the life you want to live. Most issues need weekly sessions to build the new habit patterns and maintain progress. The changes will come as you change what you decide to do as you deal with your life.

Fees
Since there is so much financial concern during the current COVID crisis, I am working much more closely with clients to manage my fees. Let' talk about that when you call. In addition to considering discounts, we can change the session length, or refer you to my wife Susan (who is an MFT and thus has lower fees) or one of the Interns I supervise in my practice (who are in training or have completed their degree, but working on licensure). Most insurance plans will cover part of your counseling. The length of therapy depends on the complexity of your issues and your commitment to the process. Don't let your financial concerns keep you from getting the help you need during this crisis.

Therapy may be longer or it may be shorter. But it will become clear to both of us when you're maintaining the changes on your own and it’s time to stop. We'll agree on a date, and sometimes we will schedule a followup session, but we will usually taper off the sessions to every other week and then once a month for awhile, rather than just stopping all at once. You can also maintain follow-up coaching if you would like.

Forms
Before your first appointment please fill out these forms. The About You form gives me contact information and a brief look at your situation.  Then the About Your Counseling  gives you a description of your privacy protections under federal HIPAA regulations.  There is also good information about how to get the most out of your counseling. When you're finished, you can either scan them and email them back to me at drdavidday@comcast.net or mail them to me at 231 Old Bernal Ave, Suite 7, Pleasanton, CA 94566.


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